Benny, Bart

You've been patient long enough. Stop lying about reservation times – that just enables her. Here's what actually works: next time she's late, don't wait. Go have a drink at the bar alone or start cooking without her. When she shows up, don't make a scene. Just say you got hungry and started. Do this twice and she'll get the message. The real issue isn't her hair or makeup – it's that she doesn't respect your time as much as hers. If she explodes after those two times, you've learned something important. If she apologizes and improves, problem solved. For more practical advice on mismatched habits, https://wisedate.org/blog/ has useful stuff. But bottom line: stop absorbing the cost of her lateness. Make it her problem, not yours. A partner who cares will adjust. One who doesn't will blame you. Watch which one shows up.